Sunday, August 19, 2012

Mirror Mirror on the Wall

Proverbs 23:7  For as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.

Mark 11:24  Therefore I say unto you, what things soever ye desire when ye pray, believe that ye receive them and ye shall have them.

I've chosen today's subject and Bible verses for two reasons.  The first one I'll share today and I'll reveal the second one tomorrow.

As little girls, we are shown example after example of our place in society. We grow up watching all those fairy tales, like Snow White, depicting a young lady waiting for her knight in shining armor to ride up on his white horse and save her.  This concept has been getting a little better throughout the years, but I still think it's somehow embedded in every little girl's conscienceness that this is the ultimate secret to our happiness.  The ulitmate dream to be found...and when that dream is shattered--if it's ever even realized in the first place--our lives can be in shambles.  * Remember how the story of Snow White starts? An evil and insecure queen discovers that there is a beautiful young woman in the land and so she plots to have her killed.  So, Snow White is forced to hide out in a cottage with seven dwarfs--and what does she do? She cooks and cleans for them. That is until the handsome prince kisses her (after the evil witch gave her the poisoned apple) and she wakes up and they live happily ever after.  I'm sure that fairy tales like this are not the only reason that women fail to get lives of their own, but the bottom line is that this type of thinking makes women feel vulnerable, helpless, and dependent on either finding a man in their life or afraid to lose the one they already have.  One of my favorite reads delves into this subject very clearly. "Stupid About Men" by Deborah Dunn contains one of my all-time favorite quotes...well two of my favorite quotes: "Decide to be happy now; don't wait for someone to make you happy," and for those of you who have already found your prince charming..."Using a husband as an excuse not to fully live is just as stupid as waiting for one to show up so we can."

Single bars are full of women desperately searching for Mr. Right--for that someone to make them fulfilled and happy. But happiness does not come from any outside comes from within. And the source of true happiness is loving yourself and submitting your life over to the Lord.  If you do that--He will direct your path in the way that you should go.  Stop looking outside yourself and to men to make you happy.  Take the bull by the horns and do whatever it takes to create your own happiness.  Maybe the Lord's been putting it on your heart to go back to school--well there's no time like the present. Just step out in faith and create your own dream. When you have a full, happy, and positive life others are drawn to that and the chances of you meeting a man who will be good to you and for you will be great. When you're not trying so hard to meet someone, the Lord will bring the man He wants you to have into your life. As women, we could all avoid a lot of unnecessary heartache and pain, if we just made a life for ourself with or without a man. A strong, secure, and happy woman is much less likely to be the victim of abuse then one who is needy and dependent on the man in her life for everything from her happiness to the clothes on her back. I'm not saying that it's a bad thing to be a stay-at-home mom, it's a wonderful thing, but I am saying that if that's what you choose to do--do it AFTER you've made a life for yourself.  Your husband will know that you are perfectly capable of supporting yourself, if the need arises. And that's a good thing. No, that's a great thing!

I would love to hear your opinion about my blog for today.  So please join in.  Tell me your story or someone else's you know.  For a little sneak preview of tomorrow's blog, I want to tell you how important it is to use that mirror you look into every morning and tell yourself how wonderful you are and how favored you are of God.

See you tomorrow!

*Stupid About Men - 10 Rules for getting Romance Right by Deborah Dunn

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